Tuesday, July 10, 2007

What puzzles me

Armed with my new marriage licence I have set out for ceremony twice so far this summer. First I married a man and woman at their cabin in the woods. I was probably just as nervous, especially worried my speech would not set the right mood. The lovers came in on the back of a veteran tractor and I married them under a flower arc with both their families and friends standing around. Sigh...

My second run was a same sex marriage last Saturday. We've had same sex marriages for some time in Norway, but this was the first same sex humanist wedding ever in Rogaland! Beautifully set by the sea in the garden of one of the parents. A smaller and more intimate ceremony, but it was so moving when they came marching down I almost could not hold the speech. I'm always very critical about everything I do, but so far all feedback on the ceremony and speech has been great. A hundred more runs and I might start to suspect it's not all bad. ;)

These new experiences triggers mixed emotions in me. While I had put love on the shelf, it is wonderful to meet these couples with stars in their eyes. It is an honour to be invited to be part of them creating one of their most important memories in life.

A humanist wedding ceremony starts with me getting to know the couple trough a few meetings so I can make a personal speech dedicated to them. The ceremonies vary from 20 to 45 minutes long and is filled with music and poems they have selected. It is important that it is ceremonious and formal, and that it focuses on the couple. This is their magic moment. Some have it out in nature, others at home or have rented facilities. In a few weeks I'm having one on an old ship out at sea and another on a beautiful beach. So far this summer I'm engaged by 11 couples to 'tie their knot'. After the ceremony I have to send in all the proper forms so the marriage is properly and formally registered.

I never stop being puzzled when I notice what I get myself involved in - and how all of it gives me new and great experiences. Life is but a dream.

"I am here on this planet to help others. Why the others are here, I don't know."